When someone you are talking to is critiquing elements (you provide) of the conversation:
1. with their friend who is listening at the same time.
or
2. in their head as a
mental note which results in a period of silence and
delayed response.
Note: The critiquing must occur during the conversation and not after, as that is termed as
logging instead. Critiquing before is remote judging.
example 1 :
You to Person A:
Hey there, Mr. Brown-Shoes! How about that local sports team!
Person A to Person B: Can you believe this guy trying to sound like
Monty Burns...
You to Person A: Hey man stop debugging me...
example 2:
You to Person A: Hey there, Mr. Brown-Shoes! How about that local sports team!
Person A (thinks): Oh my god, this guy sounds nothing like Mr Burns.
You to Person A: Stop debugging me!